|Being Romantic After Marriage
When a relationship is new, it can be very exciting. Everything we do with the other person is a new experience, and it can be exhilarating! Just taking a walk, or maybe even going to the grocery store can be exciting and fun. However, once times goes by, you may find that doing those things that once seemed fun with the other person now just seems "old," or "boring." Well, you are going to need to work on finding creative ways to keep your love and romance new and exciting! Enclosed in this article are some ideas for keeping your marriage fresh, exciting and solid.
Try to have a date every week. Even if it is just going out to dinner and a movie, always make time for each other, just the two of you. One person could even make the dinner for the other person. It is important also to dress up a little. Put on perfume/cologne for the other person like you did when your relationship was new. Wear makeup (women) and a dress, and men, wear a nice suit. Make it special. Don't come to the table wearing sweats. You probably wouldn't have done that when you were first courting each other.
Every so often, get your spouse an unexpected gift of flowers or chocolates, or just a card. It doesn't have to be expensive, you could even just write a love letter, sometimes that means more than the flowers or chocolates ever could. It's the thought that counts, not the expense!
Take vacations together. Being destressed and away from the every day world can really help you focus on each other. This will especially be important if you have children. It's important to get away for some romance, just the two of you, if you have children.
Cook together. Dab each other with flour, joke around like you did when you were younger, or at an earlier stage of your relationship. Just be silly and carefree!
Take a walk and enjoy nature.
Listen to music and dance- even if it is in your living room!
Close your bedroom door, away from pets, children (after they go to sleep), unplug the phone, turn off the tv/radio/computer, and just focus on each other. Light candles, play soft music (preferably only instruments, but that's up to you), put rose petals all around the room and watch a video. Snuggle with your spouse!
Stay up late together, or all night together talking. (You'll probably want to do this on a weekend!)
Exercise together. Staying in shape can also help you feel more confident about yourself, making you want to dress up more for your spouse.
Give each other daily compliments. Don't let a day pass without letting your spouse know how much you love him/her, and how special he/she is to you.
Always tell each other "I love you." Don't just say it in passing, where it may become said out of habit and lose its meaning. Look your spouse deep in their eyes, take their hands in yours, and tell him/her that you love him/her with all your heart.
Make time for each other! It sounds simple, but in every day life, it can hard with busy schedules. Don't let work rule your life. Keep your spouse as a top priority.
Just say "no" to always going out on group or double dates. You need to have time alone with just your spouse.
Now, go out and enjoy some creative romance with your spouse!